Childcare

I am sending my baby to school next week, and I am in all the feels, but probably not the feels that you would automatically jump to. Yes, there are some normal feelings of sadness, and fears of safety and care, but really I think these are more existential issues of mine that I am grappling with. I am hoping to debunk/process them here, in hopes that it helps calm my monkeys, and potentially helps some fellow business-ladies.

Here are some of the gnawing thoughts…

I believed that I would send him to school when he was 2… or maybe 3 or 4. So sending him at 16 months feels a bit abrupt, and like something is wrong with me.

I believe that if other women could have multiple kids and launch or manage their coaching businesses or side hustles, that I “SHOULD” be able to do it with one.

In my head, I feel that I have a sixth sense connection to his needs, and outsourcing that can feel like a failure.

I’m worried that I will bring him to school and have ALL this time now in my day and that I will waste it, by not working harder on my businesses. That my #ADHD will take over and I will spend my hours “god forbid” enjoying some kid-free time.

Here are the #FACTS… or perhaps some reframes.

He is ready for school. When I brought him on the tour he joined the class, absorbed what the teachers were saying, followed his peers and the older kids to the playground, and barely noticed when I walked away. He is ready.

Every woman business owner is different and every kid is different. The SIMPLE solution is giving myself more time and space in the day to do the work that I need and time to play, and learn. Perhaps also Rest and Research and Create. For me, trying to get this done during the same 3 hour period every day or squeeze it in during my morning routine, or exhausted nighttime unwinds is NOT the simplest way to approach my biz.

🔥🔥🔥 Perhaps I do not need to be “THE MOTHER” and “THE TEACHER”. In my methodology I teach women that the SIMPLE way is to seek and accept support and community. #Delegation is one of the mightiest tools for stepping into our power as business owners and not just burnt-out micromanagers. Although I will always be a teacher in my son’s life, perhaps (ego-death) there is someone far better than me at early childhood education?

And lastly. WHY THE F$%K do we feel GUILTY all the time for resting, “wasting” time, spending a few precious hours on our wellbeing. I am so pissed that I am still breaking free of this self-imposed prison, that tells me that enjoying life when I “should be working” or “should be with my child” is wrong.

The temporary solution… (for me)


I like to see things as an experiment. It takes the permanence out of a decision like this. I’m not sending him to this daycare forever, even though it feels that way. I CAN COMMIT to a one month experiment. Isn’t that softer? It releases the pressure valve for me. I am giving myself #grace for a month. To figure out what times and days work for him and me. To allow myself not to maximize the hours for work right away and find what is the right balance of work, pleasure, and self-care. A month to not look at it as a financial exchange… (ie. I better be making $250 more a week to justify this expense). During this month I can check in with myself, and him, and my family and see if this is the best solution, and also allow for a month for this to just BE WHAT IT IS, instead of attaching this heavy weight of righteousness, shame, truth, principles, etc to it. And personal note for me, just because he is in school now doesn’t mean that we can’t travel the world, live on a sailboat, work on farms in other countries, do home exchanges or homeschool. Etc. This decision does not cut us off from those possibilities or limit future Options… it’s just #livingsimply in the now. #childcare #motherhood #workingmoms #daycare #femaleentrepreneur #simplicitycoaching #scatteredtosimple #clarity #claritycoaching #womenswealth #womeninbusiness